Top 5 – Online Body Positive Presences. 

I’ve always said that this blog was going to be a mixture of body positivity reviews, and as somebody who has dealt with negativity due to my size or what I look like, all I want to do now is help people embrace who they are and what they look like. But sometimes we all need a helping hand in accepting ourselves. So I thought I’d compile a list of my favourite body positive online presences, so you can go and research them, watch them and take their advice.

1: Loey Lane – YouTuberloey-lane-01-435

This woman is my lifesaver. Still a rising star in the YouTube world, Loey is a plus-size beauty guru who talks about all things fashion and beauty, but also gives really empowering and well thought out speeches about body
love and acceptance, no matter what size. She also talks about her struggles with eating disorders, and how to start accepting yourself and your body as being beautiful. An over-all beautiful and bubbly soul!

 

Georgic71e8775dede61e3abf294a67715eaeena Horne/FullerFigureFullerBust – Blogger and Model.

After watching a documentary on Channel 4 called ‘Plus Sized Wars’ – click here to watch it in the UK – I found this blogger and just fell in love with her. Horne is a plus-sized model who chiefly p
romotes lingerie and shapewear which are properly catered for bigger busts. She is outspoken, tests out loads of different bras and gives regular updates on her blog. But she is also a keen fitness freak, which helps maintain her figure. Her blog is accessible, good to read, and I find Horne to be funny, straight up and really approachable.

Tess Munster/Holliday – Plus-Sized Model and Body Confidetess_article2_1b0orng-1b0orpjnce Advocate.

 

Standing a 5ft 5′, and being the largest plus-size model to be signed to a mainstream modelling agency, Tess Munster is a force of nature. Not only possessing
an incredibly beautiful face, and one hell of a unique look, Munster is a very outspoken feminist and body confidence advocate. Also, after starting the #effyourbeautystandards movement on Instagram, Munster is a body advocate to watch out for.

 

Allison Epstein – Blogger and Survivor

Now, as a survivor of an eating disorder, Epstein is very well-versed and knowlegable on the subject of body confidence or bodaaeaaqaaaaaaaaknaaaajgnlzgjlndayltkxnjgtnge5os1hn2i1lwe0ognhzta2nziynqy peace. Her blog – The Body Pacifist – is about learning to just make peace with yourself and your shape, even when it feels like the har
dest thing in the world. Her writing is intelligent, and she deals with topics in a very sensitive manner.She is also the Managing Editor of ‘Adios Barbie’ – a body positive organisation which works to redefine the boundaries of beauty. A very inspiring and beautiful woman.

 

Ashley Graham – Supermodel and Celebrity

How can we go this far and not mention Ashley Graham? A plus-sized supermodel, who not only preaches body confidence, but health and beauty for all shapashleygraham_plussizees. She was the first plus-sized model to appear on the cover of Sports Illustrated, and is shown that bigger girls can be sexy. As somebody who is so vocal and out in the celebrity world, Graham is definitely heading things up in a positive way. And with a massive online following, it’s easy to see Ashley spread her message far and wide.

 

So here is my list. By no means definitive, as there are countless of other body-confident activists out there. On The Body Pacifist, Epstein has listed a few so I’ll link that below to find the masterlist. But I hope this has been helpful. Changing your outlook on your body is a huge triumph, and makes you happier and healthier in the long run.

Seek out these beautiful women in the links below!

Loey’s YouTube

Georgina’s Blog

Tess’ Instagram

Allison’s Blog 

Ashley’s Website.

 

Wearing Monochrome and Layering – Curvy Fashions and OOTD

In your wardrobe, no matter what size, shape or gender you are, there should be the staple black-and-white pieces of clothing that you can just pull together and not worry that you don’t match. Well, my whole wardrobe is virtually made up with black tights, leggings, dresses and trousers, but the introduction of white pieces is very much a new thing. Black to me is a safe thing. It’s slimming, it goes with everything and if it get grubby it doesn’t show up that much. But white is quite the opposite. I’m naturally very clumsy, so wearing white when I’m just performing day-to-day tasks will probably end up with something spilled down it, or it just getting dirty. Also, I, like many other women, prefer owning brightly coloured pieces of underwear. I have a few neutral pieces, but none that I really like and would wear out of choice.

However, it’s always good to step out of your comfort zones with clothes. And for the last few days I’ve been pairing together some pieces that I think looks good.


Black sleeveless belted blazer – New Look

Cosette t-shirt – Queens Theatre giftshop

Black and white flower-print skort – Asda

Tights – Peacocks

Black leather boots – Clarks.

Polka dot faux-silk shirt – Heart and Soul.

Black sleeveless blazer – New Look

Black jersey pencil skirt – New Look

Black tights – Calvin Klein

Black leather Oxfords – New Look

Black and white print dress – Greek holiday purchase

Black cardigan – Primark

Tights – Zac Posen

Black boots – Clarks

So, as you can see I’ve rework some staple pieces of clothes, like my blazer, boots and tights, and paired them up to entirely separate outfits to make entirely different looks. With these staples you can rarely go wrong. Having something like this New Look blazer, it has the ability of tying the majority of any fashion pieces together, and it’s good in both cold and warm weather. The belted waist also draws attention to my best feature, and also adds an air of professionalism.

The monochrome look is always going to be a fashion classic, and despite a mixing of prints that some of my outfits do, it can rarely go wrong when you have black and white together.

Also, the light denier of the tights is good even in the summer, as well as the winter, and it can make your legs look slimmer. Plus, if you’re a girl, and you haven’t had time to shave your legs, tights is a good alternative to that.

Also, another focus of this post is about layering clothes. Now, I am pretty new to layering. I usually wear layers in the winter, just to keep warm. But in the summer, I barely want to wear anything under my arms or restricting air from getting to my skin. But with the additions of these sleeveless blazers, thin-knit cardigans and kimonos, layering has been a cool alternative to jazz up any outfit. Also, with the thin material of my kimonos and cardigans, you can always tuck them away in a small bag during the day, but it can provide a good little shrug for the cooler evening air. Plus, if you wear the right sort of layer – like the sleeveless blazer or a printed kimono – it is the perfect transition piece for day to night. And for the transitional months of September and October, layering can be that bit of warmth that you may need as the days get longer, and the nights get cooler.

Now, for curvy girls like myself, who may have problem areas but also good areas to emphasis, like my waist or hips, layering can disguise this. A kimono skims the body and covers the upper arms, whilst the belted blazer nips you in at the waist, but if you pair it with a light long-sleeve top, it also makes sure your upper arms are covered as well as artfully disguising your cleavage – if that’s what you want to hide.

For this summer, I’m finding the monochrome look to be one of sophistication, good for work as well as leisure and being able to mix-and-match with virtually everything in your wardrobe. And for layering, the high summer months are drawing to a close, so with the autumn setting in, layering can be a fun way to stay warm, look gorgeous and highlight your best bits.

-Alice x

My Body Experiences – School, Being Bullied and the Bully and Overcoming All This to Embrace my Curves!

As a request, I’ve been asked to write about my experiences with being big at school and how I overcame it to be the confident-ish girl that I am today.

I say confident-ish, because truthfully, I still have my low days. Days when I honestly wish I could slip out of my skin and emerge to be this size 8 gym bunny. And I know that through dieting, a change in lifestyle and a consistent weight-loss, this is an option that if I wish to do, I could achieve in a few years time. But the majority of the time I quite love being the happy size 14 that I am, and that I do have curves that can sometimes look almost comical.

But at school I was never this confident. I wasn’t curvy at school as such, but just… big. Big, round and dare I say it, fat. I had a moon face with spots, my eyes seemed to disappear into my fat, my stomach was massive and my legs were like elephants. And this isn’t just me being cruel and self-reflective. There are photos of me back then that I look back at now and think ‘god I was big’. And it didn’t help that my school was pretty late in embracing healthy eating, or that I had no clue about doing such a thing. I also had the other bit of growing up in a pub, so cheap and filling gastro food was my meals most days. But, I don’t like putting blame of other people. I could have not got a whole box of cookies everyday after school and eaten them on the short walk home. I didn’t have to get McDonalds every weekend, and I didn’t have to devour countless chocolate bars and crisps and just other fattening things.

I am entirely guilty for my weight back then.

But I am also responsible for my weightloss too. 

At school, I had my share of bullying. Some about my size, when I would be called a ‘whale’, or ‘disgusting’ or just ‘fat’. But some about silly little things like the shape of my mouth the fact I wore glasses, (four eyes, nerd, geek etc), and the fact that I had, and still do, crooked teeth. And from this, in my own unhappiness, and want for power and acceptance, I started to become a bully. And, now I’m so ashamed to say it, I began to bully people in my friendship group, just because I could and I felt that they would forgive me. So it was a vicious cycle of the bullied-becoming-the-bully.

So, how did I change? How did I change my eating, weight and life to become healthier and happier?

Well, it started after a family funeral. One that came as a shock to all of us. And whilst at this funeral, when I was surrounded by my much smaller cousins, something clicked. And I thought ‘I can’t go on this way’. Now, I was never at risk with my health. But I was going towards that if I kept my eating patterns the same way as I did.

So, I began exercising – a story which I will go into more detail in a later post – and began eating salad, good proteins and less processed fat. And I was so surprised. I began sleeping better, felt happier and had more energy. And my mental health rapidly improved, so I was overall a better and happier person.

So that’s what I say to you, reader. If you want to lose weight, then do it. But it has to be to make you happy. I am well aware that there are some people who are perfectly happy being bigger, and being plussize. And I completely respect them, and am a keen supporter in body confidence of any size. But making sure you’re healthy, happy and above all, content with yourself is the only thing that is important in your life.

And if you want to ask me any questions, then please do. I’m not a skinny of a fat shamer. I’m a body confidence lover. And that’s no matter what shape, size, height, whatever you are.

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My before and after – Before was Halloween 2013 After is March 2015.

-Alice x

Outfits of the Day – Work Edition.

For the past few months, I’ve been working in an office doing marketing work. Now, this office is relatively relaxed with dress codes, and I thought I’d share my outfits that I have been wearing in the last week.

As I’ve said before, I am a curvy girl. And, in my opinion, being heavier and curvy in the summer is quite difficult, as things can get warmer,  thighs can rub and wearing tights and leggings can just be too hot. So, it’s key to remain cool, tidy and relatively smart. Now, as I said, my office’s rules are relaxed. If I wanted too, I could easily come in jeans and a t-shirt with some converses. But the ratio to me wearing jeans over skirts and dresses is nearly not even 1% of my time. I find dresses and skirts to be a lot more flattering on me, and a lot easier to wear and accessorize with.

As you can probably tell, I don’t wear makeup when I’m going to work, and I always wear my Pandora and gold rings. My hair isn’t anything usually to shout about either, just clean and away from my face.

So, my outfit for Monday: 

Dark red chiffon owl-printed dress – Peacocks

Black tights – Calvin Klein

Leather Boots – Clarks

The good think about this dress is that with the tie-waist, you can either wrap it around and it’s fairly loose, or you can double- wrap and make it more waist defining. Also, with the translucent chiffon sleeves, it can hide a multitude of upper-arm problems, yet not be too hot in the summer. The underneath is a satin slip, so it offers a degree of modesty, as well as it being knee-length and despite not really liking owls, the print isn’t too obvious. For me, this is a good office outfit as it’s clearly casual enough to wear outside, fairly airy, so it’s not restricting in a warm room but can appear modest enough for stricter dress codes. This is a really versatile outfit for all seasons too, as the colours are very autumnal/winter , yet the owl motif can be seen in spring and summer too.

Tuesday:

  Grey side split dress -New Look

Leggings – Primark

Nude and black pumps – New Look

Necklace – New Look

Now this is quite a risky outfit for work. Despite it being neutral colours, the maxi dress is split on both sides up to the waist, and does offer a lot of skin showing, and an awful lot of my fabulous curves. The dress is perfect for curvy girls like myself, because it shows off your small waist, and hourglass hips. Plus, in the summer, with the splits, it gives room for it to be airy, and the cotton fabric helps. And thanks to that, you could also wear it with the flaps tied together and make it into a tie-up crop top and leggings.

I love this look because it’s unusual to look at, and the neutral colour scheme makes it look quite chic. Plus, it’s so super quick to slip on and accessorise with.

Also – these shoes are a godsend, as they have elasticated sides, so you could store them in a bag for night out, and they are comfortable and look more expensive than they actually were.

Wednesday


White shirt – Primark

Elasticated blue maxi skirt – Peacocks.

Nude Bandelettes (Not pictured) – Bandelettes.com

White lace shoes (Not pictured) – Primark

Now this is probably one of my most conservative outfits. But it’s equally as comfortable for the summer. On a hot summer day, this white cotton shirt provides a ready office look, and the white fabric reflects light and isn’t necessarily too hot. However! Be warned to all my readers who may get sweaty during this sweltering weather. Fitted cotton shirts can be horrible under the arms for a particularly warm day, so perhaps, if you’re going out afterwards, pack a vest or just loads of deodorant. And for bigger-busted girls, it’s always better to get shirts from websites that cater to plussize ladies – as they can have them ready-tailored for your figure, or just go up a size so it may be loose everywhere else, but comfortable around your cleavage. You don’t want to be worrying about accidental flashing when you’re at work. Also, always wear a nude-coloured bra underneath – just for that extra touch of classiness. It’s not the best look to wear black under white, unless you really want to rock the monochrome look.

The dark blue skirt not only protects your legs against the sun’s rays (But always wear suncream too), but it’s heavy enough not to swing up in the wind, yet light enough to cool your legs down. I particularly liked the colour of this skirt, as blue compliments me, and the elasticated waist highlighted my better parts. The skirt also adds a pop of colour to my quite plain outfit, and the belt draws me in and just gives a break from the white to the blue.

Now, underneath this outfit I was wearing my trusty Bandelettes, which are basically anti-chafing lace bands, which are surrounded by non-slip silicone. For ladies with a bit of thigh-chub, I’d thoroughly recommend them. Summer + sweaty thighs + chafing = a lot of pain.

And despite my shoes not being featured, they are strappy white lace ballet pumps, that are not only extremely comfy, but also provide that extra bit of sweetness into my Heidi-from-the-mountains vibe.

Thursday  

Pale pink sleeveless blazer – New Look

Logo tshirt – Primark

Silk skirt – TK Maxx

Tights – Peacocks

Leather Oxfords – New Look

This is definitely one of my favourite outfits of the week. Despite it being mismatched, different colours and not necessarily summer-fit, it is incredibly cool. The sleeveless blazer is definitely my autumn-winter staple, as it’s not only fashionable at this moment. but it skims all the lumps and bumps, and adds to the professionalism of the outfit. And as it’s sleeveless, it doesn’t get hot in the summer, or weigh me down. My only problem with it is that it has faux-pockets, which are my biggest gripe in women’s clothing.

The pairing of the cotton logo tshirt, and more adult-looking skirt does give the outfit a smart-casual vibe, and as the skirt is 100% silk, it doesn’t feel heavy in the summer months. The tshirt is also lightweight, and not restrictive under my arms, therefore I have movement and free arms during the day. And with the tights, and leather Oxford shoes, they tie the outfit into together to appear professional, but also add to a casual air. And the tights prevent that awful chub-rub that I’ve mentioned before.

Friday 

Oxblood lace skater dress – New Look

Oversized pale pink hair-bow – New Look

Tights – Zac Posen

Leather boots – Clarks.

My final outfit of the day was one that I wore for work, but also needed to go out for dinner later. The mixture of a lace dress overlaying a silk slip gives me movement, and the skater feel of the dress is perfect for curvy girls as once again, it shows off my best assets, yet skims the waist and the problem areas. And it is perfect for going between work and dinner, as it doesn’t appear too office-y but smart enough for a restaurant.

The oversized pink hair bow was an accessory that I attached to the back of my hair, and not only added a pale pop of colour to my hair, but also added a fun little detail that I appreciated. And having hair accessories also add the feel of a little effort being put in, without going too overboard.

The tights – a steal at £3 from TK Maxx – are high quality, so they are both cooling when the sun beats down, but warm in the winter, and the leather boots are my utter, utter staple as they are durable, go with everything and can be worn in both wet and dry weather.

So this is my week in outfits. I will be doing more of these if you like them, as I enjoy pairing my clothes together. And if you have any questions about anything in particular, don’t hesitate to leave me a comment or send me a message.

-Alice x

#IAmSizeSexy – First Blog Post and Introduction.

As I’ve said before, this is going to be a mix blog that is part reviews and part body confidence. And to me as a girl who was always called, ‘fat’, ‘disgusting’, ‘unhealthy’, ‘whale’, and the traditional, ‘ugly’, body confidence is such an important and necessary factor in my life, and not only that, but a very recent one.

In these blog posts, I want to explain my own journey into body confidence, give out fashion advice for curvy girls, cover questions about body weight and bullying, and just dispel some myths that come from the warped view that modernimage5 day society has put into beauty standards.

I am, in NO WAY, a fashion, trends, beauty, nutrition or fitness expert. I cannot speak for others, and I know that the tips and stories and opinions that I give out are personal to me, and have helped me in my journey of body confidence. In these blog posts,  I don’t want to offend people with anything I say, or anything that I assume. And if you, as the reader, have anything that you think is wrong, or offensive, please just send me a message, and I’ll either clarify, or rectify.

But, first of all let me explain my own story. Just so you can get an idea of who I am, and why I think a positive body image is so important for people nowadays.

At school age, and through adolescence and into my early adulthood, I was unhealthy. Unhealthy that my diet was poor, I did little to no exercise and I didn’t care much for my personal appearance or mental health. And I was going towards a weight problem that could had affected my actual health for the rest of my life. Now, in the last year or so, I’ve completely changed my life around. I’ve lost nearly two stone – and now sitting happily at a size 14 – I have upped my exercise to a regular amount, and I’ve taken control of my diet in a way that is healthier, yet I don’t cut anything out or limit myself.

And from this, I’ve got a body that is curvy, and still considered by society to be plussize, yet I feel and look much better. And at this point in my life, I am able to look into the mirror, and think ‘Yeah, you look nice today’. But, there’s always going to be negative days. Days, that I look in theimage4 mirror when I’ve got my comfiest and biggest pyjamas, and just think ‘oh god your thighs/face/arms/stomach’, and all I want to do is carve great slabs off myself.

And that’s what I think is the most warped thing of all. That I, as a twenty-one year old woman, who has a fantastic family, amazing friends, a fairly good brain and am in overall good health, has days that I think that I am the ugliest creature on earth. And it’s solely down to the body standards of the society that I grew up in.

Now, in this day and age, being my size is considered overweight, and practically obese. It is just is. There is no turning back from this. And from this, I have been told that I will never be loved, never be beautiful, and never look good in clothes. And this is incredibly damaging, especially to somebody who used to be so self-conscious about the fact that I had an ample bra size and wide hips etc.

But this is ridiculous. And I want this shaming to stop.

It’s ridiculous timage2hat I’m told these things by strangers. It’s ridiculous that my body, and the weight I carry, can make people want to verbally throw these cruel slurs at me. It’s ridiculous that, because of what is considered beautiful, instantly makes something different ugly. And how I, as not a curvaceous individual, cannot possibly be beautiful if we’re going by what society has deemed so.

I want to emphasis that I am not a skinny-shamer. I am not bashing different body shapes, or what makes us different body shapes. What I’m criticising is the limited view of beauty. I think beauty is much more than body type and size, and people, whatever shape, size, height and weight can be beautiful through their minds, and their actions. What they look like is a tiny percentage of what true beauty should be based in.

I am aware that there are people who are skinny-shamed, and told to fatten up, that they look sick, and that they would look better ‘with a bit more meat on their bones’, and I find this to be a truly saddening state of affairs too. Skinny and slender people do receive a barrage of abuse, and this needs to stop too. It doesn’t promote a healthy body or mental image, and can lead to eating disorders and body dysmorphia. So, if you, as a reader have been personally targeted like this please contact me and we’ll get a blog post together.

So, what I will be doing in this blogs is promoting my body. My size 14, curvy-as-hell, big-footed, messy hair, and short-sighted appearance.  My ideas of beauty standards, and what think is a healthier and more positive ideal of beauty. As I said before, I am all for body positivity, and I am a full supporter of Effyourbeautystandards, and because of my appearances, my posts will be directed towards women of a curvier appearance. Just because of who I am. But please, carry on reading. To have a positive outlook on your body is such a rare thing in young girls nowadays, and this needs to stop. Everyone should be accepting.

And if you’re slim, apple, pear, hourglass, boyish, tall, short, and other shapes, you should be considered beautiful, and worthy of the body you were born into. Because you only get one. And you know what, to everyone out there who thinks that I am disgusting, and whatever because I am a size 14? I am Size Sexy. And that is because I chose to be.

Thank you.

-Alice x

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Below are some links to articles I found interesting about beauty standards:

Tess Holliday ‘Never seen a fat girl in her underwear before?’

My size zero life being skinny shamed

‘Sharp rise’ in number of school girls with emotional issues

YSL ad ban: Scarily thin models are indefensible to models like me

Eating disorder hospital admissions nearly double

‘Are you beach body ready?’ Feminists deface ‘body shaming’ ad